Journey To Motherhood, My first year being a mama... March 22 2013, 0 Comments
Name: Michele Walthers
Hometown: Plainview, New York
Current town: Living in Glen Cove, New York 3 years
living in NY my entire life, all different areas
Occupation: Mom and Freelance Graphic Designer
When did you first become a mother? First became a mom to Milo on December 23, 2008.
Before becoming a mother, what did you know about motherhood? Was the reality close to your personal image/idea? Before becoming a mom, I wanted to have four children. I grew up in a very large Italian family. Everything revolved around family and I wanted to continue my traditions with a big family of my own. I always saw how the women in the family were so strong and important, basically the glue that held everything together. The moms always knew what to do and how to do it. I soon found out that sometime, that is not always the case. That it is God who is really in charge and life constantly throws you curve balls.
How would you describe the first year? My first year of motherhood was the worst year of my life…and madness continued through the second year. After giving birth to my beautiful son, I was hit so hard with postpartum depression. Something I knew nothing about and was never educated about. A terrible condition that my doctors never told me could happen to me. Something that came upon me and robbed me and my son of two whole years of bond time.
Did you have a support system near by? I had an amazing support system. That was the only reason I was able to get throw. Along with an amazing husband, I had two women with me each and every day I needed them. One was a postpartum therapist who was like an angel sent to me from God and the other was my wonderful mother. The irony: becoming a mom for the first time but needing my own mom at the same time to get me thought the hardest time of my life. She never let me down and was amazing not only to me but to my son.
How do you like being a mom to a boy? Don’t they just live their mamas?!
Today, my son is a beautiful four year-old boy who loves life and all that surrounds him. He and I have a great relationship and I am proud to say I am a great mom to him. But he also has a great father, grandparents and other family members that enrich his life each and every day. It is so important to me that he spends so much time with his loved ones and will have so many great memories to carry through his entire life.
Tips for new moms?
One thing that I have learned through my most difficult times in life is that you do not need to go through hard times alone. Ask and you shall receive and always remember that we were meant to live together as they did in tribal days, to help one another and have support systems. To not be alone. To live together.