Another year has gone by and with this we will have a New Year, a clean slate if you wish but we know as mothers that goals/resolutions are sometimes easier said then done. Here are six ways that can help you keep them!
Hand writes your resolutions. Haven't there been studies that prove handwriting burns into your brain better than typing? Also - laugh if you will - but in college, Erica would make lists of assignments due and once complete she highlighted it in pink (her favorite color!). Pink was my accomplishment color. I could look at my list and the more pink I saw, the better I felt and the more inspired I felt to finish more (so I could see more pink!). Think of it as a grown-up sticker chart.
Create small goals. You want to lose 20 lbs.? Write '2lbs' ten times and highlight as you go. Want to clean out your wardrobe? Itemize it out - make a list of the bedroom closet, dresser, and hall closet. As you clean each one, highlight as you go. Again - feel a sense of accomplishment for each step you take.
Be realistic. If you order dinner six nights, a week don't say you will cook dinner every night. Start by half. Aim to cook dinner three nights a week. Then 4. And work up to your weekly goal.
Don’t be afraid to make goals that will take longer than a year. I am entering into the final stretch of a long-term resolution/plan I made to myself that consists of 5 goals. One was that I start a project I was afraid of and I did…its Motherburg this blog you’re reading. Another was writing for other sites. Check✓. The third? That we expanded our family and if you missed it, which would be easy as we were a bit quiet about it, we adopted our foster baby now 20 months in May. Yay!
This brings me to how we share goals. Goals do not have to be shouted out to the world. Some of the best are the ones you keep to yourself. As far as my remaining goals, these are still in process, but they have started to take fruition which is both scary and amazing at the same time.
Ask for support. This circles back to posts we have written this past year about our mom tribes. People, your fellow mom friends can help you with a resolution. It doesn’t have to be top secret, but if you do feel cautious about sharing it, then entrust a friend you feel will give you guidance and the encouragement you need to achieve this goal.
Have faith in yourself. This is the hardest part about sticking to a resolution- especially for tired moms. Whatever it takes, affirmations, writing down positive attributes about yourself-then do this. One of my goals is to try to replace a negative thought with a positive. It’s not easy, as some of us tend to be our worst critics. Be determined to turn your thoughts around, which will help in feeling more self-assured and confident. This helps all of us especially when there are some bumps in the road.
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