Journey To Motherhood, my first year being a mama...
Motherburg are big fans of Lindsey’s blog - Beautiful Madhouse. Not only is it a super real account of motherhood (couldn’t we all use a touch of real when we talk about parenting?) but the stories are awesome and Lindsey’s sense of humor are infectious. As step-mom to one and momma to 5 she’s also our mommy idol! Plus she’s a kick-a** birth doula & restaurant owner!
Name: Lindsey Bliss
Hometown: Pompton Lakes, NJ
How long have you been living in Brooklyn? I lived in Williamsburg for about 8 years and have 2 businesses in the neighborhood. We recently moved to Glendale Queens once my twin boys arrived.
Occupation: mom, birth doula & restaurant owner
When did you first become a mother? I became a step-mom first about 8/9 years ago and had my first baby 6 1/2 years ago. I have a total of 6 kids. Bella 16, Mia 6, twins Birdie & Hazel 3, and twins Rocky & Lucky 13 months.
Before becoming a mother, what did you know about motherhood? Before becoming a mother I was introduced to motherhood through my step-daughter Bella. Motherhood scared me a bit. I wasn’t sure I could even take care of myself let alone another human being. I never thought I would have any children but Bella opened my heart to the idea. Now I am the mother to 6 kids and couldn’t imagine my life any differently.
How would you describe the first year? My first year as a mommy was both magical and insanely difficult. I spent time mourning my child-free spontaneous lifestyle and at the same time I was so in love and amazed at this wonderful little being I made. I never knew I could love someone so much. It went by so fast that it is a bit of a blur.
How did you get through it? I got through the first year because of my supportive husband. He made it possible for me to really embrace and love being a new mother. I also enjoyed hanging around a group of other new mothers who I could drink wine with and vent to. I found this type of support essential when I became a new mom.
Do you have close friends or family near by? Did it help having a family member/friends close by? My family is close by and visits regularly. I adore my family and friends but I haven’t really found them as helpful as I would have liked them to be. I’ve learned to be very self sufficient and to rely mostly on my husband. My crew can be a bit daunting especially with two sets of twins. In NY people are so busy with their own lives that there isn’t any extra time to help out with all my little trolls. Which I totally understand.You’ve been a mother for 6 years now, what lessons have you learn? I have learned that a positive attitude is the key to successful parenting. I smile even when I don’t want to and it works. Also every parenting hurdle eventually passes. Your baby will eventually sleep I promise. There is no one size fits all parenting solution for every kid. I wish there was one sometimes.
Tips for new moms? Smile. Breathe. Don’t be too hard on yourself. Take a few minutes each day just for you. Even if it’s just your morning shower. Cherish those 5 minutes. It makes a huge difference.