love & marriage

January 26, 2012

In the last few months I have had a series of close friends who have separated. At one point my husband and I just sat there staring at each other in shock. These couples had beautiful weddings, heartfelt vows and we were all married around the same time. One of the couples is slowly moving in together (again) and seem more solid then ever, the others have filed divorce papers.

My friend Molly and I joke that if it comes to it we will treat our marriages like a business with a goal to make it work and be as successful as we would any job. We are both children of divorce, although I often told my mother it wasn’t the marriage that caused me angst, it was the divorce. Having to be a mediator at age 6, suddenly losing a full time father, acquiring two step-parents who were not keen on young children being part of the package, the list is endless. I cannot predict what the future holds however I do know that I did not go into my marriage lightly. The first few years of having children have been the hardest, we always heard this yet it hit us hard. We aren’t even on year 3 of C’s existence yet we are slowing getting back to a groove and I am now at a place where I can think of the marriage and how to keep it intact. I plan to start doing more posts on relationships in the future here on Motherburg. For a large part of parenting are the relationships with our partners, friends that help keep us together at the seams. 

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